Good morning, ladies! For our first week of the series 6 Characteristics of a Godly Husband, we’ll be talking about how godly husbands act with responsibility. I know what you might be thinking, “well, duh, a Husband should be responsible.” Yes, that’s true, but how should they be responsible and what does the Bible have to say about it?
Out of the many different ways a husband acts responsibly, we’re going to focus on 4:
1. Responsible with money
2. Responsible in getting things done
3. Responsible in being spiritually disciplined
4. Able to take care of a family
I feel like a teacher talking to a class and beginning a lesson. The little girl who likes to play pretend is coming out. Lovely.
Anyhow, let’s continue.
1. Responsible with money
Financially, we want to be stable and out of debt, whether I’m married or not. We and our husbands need to be able to handle money carefully. I want my future husband to be generous as well (Proverbs 19:17), bring blessings to our family through his hard-earned money (Proverbs 11:25), and be rich in good works (1 Timothy 6:17-19).
When we do these things, we honor the Lord with our money (Proverbs 3:9-10).
If we happen to have debt when we’re married, which is normal, then I want my future husband and I to be honest and pay back what we owe.
“The wicked borrows, but doesn’t pay back, but the righteous is generous and gives; but those blessed by the Lord shall inherit the land, but those cursed by Him shall be cut off” (Psalm 37:21-26).
2.Responsible in getting things done
Alright, be honest, have you procrastinated before? I know I have. Ah, the perks of being a college student.
But, with a family, it’s important to get stuff done. If we have a habit of starting projects and not finishing them, that can cause stress for you and/or another. Then, at the end of a project or a goal, we hoped for completion and wanted success, but all we have are broken pallet boards and empty prayer journals (Proverbs 10:4, 13:4, 20:4).
After all, the hands of the diligent are successful (Proverbs 12:24).
“In whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him. Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord knowing you’ll receive the inheritance as your reward. You’re serving the Lord” (Colossians 3:17, 23-24).
3.Responsible in being spiritually disciplined
I want to pray with my husband every morning and every evening. It’s important that my husband is spiritually alert, able to defend himself with the Word and with prayer, so he can lead me, his wife, and his family towards Jesus (1 Peter 5:8-9).
I want my husband to spend time with God on a daily basis, to lean on our Savior for strength and wisdom. I want him to run the race, pay attention to how he lives, loves, and uses his life as an example for Christ in order to bring others to Jesus (Ephesians 5:15-16). It’s important for me that my husband is an example, along with myself, on how to live an honorable, loving, and disciplined Christian life so we can teach our children to do the same.
“My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline or be weary of His reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom He loves, as a Father the son whom He delights” (Proverbs 3:11-12).
4.Can take care of a family
When we put these 3 points together, we can see they all fit under the responsibility of taking care of a family.
Boaz, for example, knew how to use money and resources well. He had a whole field of workers under his command and still gave grain to the poor (Ruth 2:4-5, 8-9, 16). When he promised Ruth that he would talk to her kinsman redeemer, he didn’t hesitate and got the job done (Ruth 3:18, 4). He was spiritually disciplined in knowing God’s law and was a man of God (Ruth 2:20, 4). In doing all of this, he was able to marry Ruth, take care of her, have a son, and be in the line and genealogy of Jesus. Now that’s taking care of a family!
“And the women of the village gave him a name, saying, ‘A son has been born to Naomi.’ They named him Obed. He was the father of Jesse, the father of David.” (Ruth 4:17).
I used to think that asking God for a responsible husband was silly — that it was obvious — but I realized that God cares about the obvious.
I like to joke about men and how they mature less quickly than women. It seems that men don’t mature until they’re 40.
*giggles* I’m joking, only joking.
Anyways, there’s nothing wrong with asking for someone to be responsible. That’s part of being a husband and father. Look at God; He’s the epitome of responsibility!
I urge y’all to observe the men in your lives and how they handle responsibility. Do they stress over things? Are they lazy? Do the take the time to care for you? Do they handle money responsibly? Do they spend time with God daily?
Heavenly Father, I pray for our future husbands and ask that You help them become responsible young men. As their future wives, help us to be responsible young women to support them as they support us. Amen.
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